What Does Rejection Have To Do With Tea?

What Does Rejection Have To Do With Tea?
Rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.
Robert Foster Bennett

Rejection is an inevitable part of life, and it is not always easy to deal with.

Rejection can happen in your personal relationships, business endeavours and even with friends. Hearing the word, NO can feel disheartening and can sometime feel like you have failed.

But it is important to understand that rejection is not a sign of failure or a dismissal of your ideas or offerings.

How many times have you heard the phrase, "rejection is not personal, it is just business"?

When a person declines what you have to offer, it can feel like a reflection on your worth as a person, yet remember it is not personal. rather it signifies a mismatch between their needs, circumstances, or priorities and what you are offering.

It is important to remind yourself that rejection is about the offer and not about who you are as a person.

Detaching yourself emotionally from rejection can be challenging, but it is necessary for both your sanity as well as personal growth.

One helpful way to achieve this is by using the "cup of tea" analogy.

I am not everyone's cup of tea and I am cool with that!

Imagine offering someone a cup of tea in your home.

If they decline, it is not personal; they might not be in the mood for tea or have a preference for something else to drink.

The same goes for potential clients, they may not be ready for your services at that particular moment, but that doesn't mean they won't be in the future.

Rejection can be an opportunity for growth and learning.

Embrace the mindset that each "no" brings you closer to a "yes."

Analyse and reflect on the reasons behind the rejection.

It could be due to factors beyond your control such as budget constraints or timing. Put yourself in the shoes of the person saying no, to help you to understand why they said no, and to remember that it is not personal.

Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.
Steve Maraboli

Rejection can be an opportunity for growth and learning. When you embrace the mindset that each "no" brings you closer to a "yes" you build confidence and resilience.

One thing you can do is reflect on the reasons behind the rejection, to help you to understand why you received a no. Remember it could be because of reasons that are beyond your control such as they are not ready for what you have to offer. The timing is not right.

It is important to still remember that receiving a no is not personal. remember the cup of tea analogy.

Just because someone said no does not mean you cannot have them as part of your tribe, or network. Who is to say that the person who said no, is not going to become a font of knowledge, support, and collaboration for you and with you in the future.

Building genuine relationships and nurturing connections can lead to new opportunities and connections. Something to remember when you feel that emotion of rejection is setting in. It is not you; it is circumstances and business.

Remember I mentioned resilience earlier with regards to rejection?

Resilience is about being able to overcome the unexpected!

Resilience is crucial in bouncing back from rejection. Remind yourself of past successes and other times you felt rejected and knowledge to yourself, that you are still here, you are still standing strong. This will also help you to build your confidence.


  • Meditate on how you feel when you get rejected.
  • Go for a walk or do some exercise to get the blood flowing and endorphins going through your system to counterbalance the negative feeling of rejection.
  • Journaling to help you manage the stress you can feel from being rejected.
  • Surround yourself with a supportive network of like-minded individuals who understand the challenges of rejection and can lift you up during tough times.
  • Become Your Own Superhero:

In the face of rejection, it's important to tap into your own superpower. Embrace your unique skills, talents, and expertise and most of all your humanness.

Confidence and self-belief are essential in navigating rejection with resilience.

Celebrate your accomplishments and cultivate a strong sense of self-worth.

Remember, rejection does not define you; it merely redirects you towards a better fit.

Rejection can be a powerful catalyst for growth and self-improvement if you adopt the right attitude and perspective. Remind yourself that rejection is not personal and cultivating a personal growth mindset, by expanding our network, practicing resilience, and embracing our inner superhero, you can navigate rejection with grace and resilience.

Remember, every "no" brings you one step closer to your next "yes." So, don't let rejection hold you back; use it as fuel to propel yourself forward on your journey toward success.

Remember to live your life with confidence!

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